Dating Safety

Meeting new people can be exciting, but the most important thing is to use your best judgment and common sense when interacting with someone you don't know. Here are some basic safety tips

Online Interaction

Never send money or share your financial information

Don't send anyone money in any form, especially over wire transfer. Much like sending cash, wiring money is nearly impossible to reverse or trace. Never share information that could be used to access your financial accounts or data. If another user asks you for money, report it to us immediately using the report button (report icon) and then block them (block icon).

More information on dating scams can be found on the U.S Federal Trade Commission website.

Protect your personal information

Under no circumstance should you share personal information such as social security number, address of your home or work, information about your children (if applicable), or details of your daily routine with someone you don't know.

Stick to the platform

While we encourage you to talk to and get to know other users on H.Dating, always be smart about it. Our messaging system is free to use and there is no harm in using it until you feel comfortable enough to share other forms of contact. If you choose to share another form of communication, we recommend using a platform that provides an easy method to block communication if necessary.

Long distance/overseas relationships

Use your best judgment but be especially cautious of users that want to develop a relationship but do not live anywhere near you, or that list a different location than where they are actually from. Friendship is one thing, but this can often turn into them asking you for financial help to come to you or return home. As mentioned before, never send anyone money in any form. It is also a big red flag when you have been communicating with someone for awhile and they are reluctant to communicate via phone or video chat.

Account protection and privacy

Always use a secure password when signing up and never save your login information on a public or shared computer. We will never send an email, text, or app notification asking you for your personal information or account login credentials. If you receive any such email, you should let us know immediately.

Offline/In-person Interaction

Meet in a very public place

To ensure your safety, it is a good idea for at least the first few dates to meet up somewhere very public. A park, restaurant, bar, etc. Basically anywhere other people are nearby. It is generally not a good idea to venture anywhere private with someone you just met, so stand your ground if pressured to do so. If your date can't understand that, it is probably best not to see them again.

Let someone else know your plans

It is always a good idea to let a friend or family member know about your dating plans, and have a predetermined check-in time with them. The truth is that you never really know who you are meeting up with until you meet them. Being cautious is never a bad thing and your date doesn't need to know about it.

Have your own transportation

Years ago, it was always customary for a man to pick up a woman to go on a date. Those times are long gone, and until you get to know someone well, you should use your own transportation or public transit/taxi/ride-sharing service to get to and from your planned meeting place.

Know your limits, and trust your instict

There is nothing wrong with having drinks while on a date, but never drink more than you feel comfortable with and never get inebriated with someone you don't absolutely trust. It is also a good idea to keep your drink close to you at all times to make sure it can't be tampered with. Trust your intuition about the person you are meeting. If something about them gives you a bad feeling or raises a red flag, you should leave immediately.

Keep your personal belongings close

Never leave personal items unattended, even if it is just a quick trip to the bathroom. It doesn't take long for someone to get information about you from your phone or purse/bag/wallet.

No need to rush

All great things come in time, and the longer you spend getting to know someone the stronger the foundation will be for it to develop into something more. If you are constantly being pressured by someone to do things that you aren't ready for or make you feel uncomoftable, you should take it as a sign and move on. Clearly they are looking for something you are not.

Consent is mandatory

We know that when things get heated it can escalate quickly, but it is absolutely necessary to get consent from your partner before engaging in sexual activity. Even in a relationship, it never hurts to make sure you and your partner are always on the same page. If someone you meet forces you to do something sexual without your consent, you should call your local law enforcement immediately to report it.

Sexual Well-being

Protection and/or contraception

Just because you already have an STD doesn't mean you shouldn't still use some form of protection for prevention of other STD's. Using protection also greatly reduces the risk of unplanned pregnancy. While we provide a way for users to let each other know which STD(s) they have, it doesn't mean the information is correct or up to date. We provide no way of verifying this information. Regular testing is recommended for people sexually active with multiple partners.

Talking about things

While it is highly recommended that you are only sexually active with people having the same STD as you, things don't always end up that way. You must always disclose your condition to someone that has not indicated that they also have it. Intentionally passing your STD to someone without their prior knowledge of it is a crime. Talking with your partner is also important to assess your symptoms and how it can potentially impact sexual activity. Not everyone is affected the same way by their condition and it is important to be understanding of that.

Resources

If you find yourself in need of resources that we are unable to provide, we have listed several here. If you are in imminent danger, call your local law enforcement immediately.